Diet, Disasters and Detox…

I’ve decided that May –  well from mid May to mid June is going to be detox month for me, for my family, my business and my home.
That means getting rid of the things that slow us down, that we don’t love and don’t love us (like wheat and the cockroaches in the outside drain and clutter)
The first detox for me to tackle is the body one and also the hardest but i’m hoping that if I spring clean my health it will filter into my life in general.
I’ve spent my entire life following one diet after another diet, learning contradicting things about nutrition from everyone from my mom to a silicon valley millionaire turned diet guru, to a sports science doctor turned crazy man and i’ve lost some, i’ve gained it back and lost it and gained it and well, you get the picture.
My most recent run in with a diet was buying into the idea of the BULLETPROOF DIET and let me say that i got the most spectacular results. i put on 5 kilos in 2 weeks. yes thats right! you read that correctly. in 2 weeks! almost not even humanly possible you say?
whats beyond frustrating is that i wasn’t even attempting to lose weight – my weight was great. I wanted the other touted virtues like better brain function, higher levels of concentration and laser like focus.
What i got was a fat ass and now i am struggling to get rid of it and i don’t feel very clever either. Infact i feel like a complete idiot. Who buys that you can eat fat all day long and not get fat or die of a major disease?
It’s so bad that i don’t want to go out, i don’t want to see friends, heck i don’t even want to get dressed in the morning. its seriously depressing stuff so i was interested to read about one of the top 10 books you need to read in your life (thats non fiction) called THE CHINA STUDY. The most comprehensive study of nutrition ever conducted. this is not a diet book in the sense of a hot new trending diet – its actual science and it talks about disease and the link to nutrition and unlike the gazillion other books about diet and nutrition its’ in fact based in science.
it also advocates veganism-  something i have always  been terrified of. It seems so drastic. But the fact is I am 43, i have very little interest in contracting a degenerative disease and a whole lot of interest in losing some of my wobbly bits so i’m going to give it a one month test.
I will post my progress here and we can see what happens within that month – if i’m an anaemic mess or  fit, fabulous and on the way to flab free.

i’m excited!

those days

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the thing is there are going to be those days…

when the baby sitter lets you down. when it seems your friends are bailing on you left right and centre, when you feel utterly alone and so very sad. there are going to be those days when your jeans feel like they schrunk 3 sizes in the wash, when you cant even count on your shampoo. When every decision you have made seems questionable at best and when your full length mirror seems really quite spiteful.

There are going to be those days. The thing is not to give in to self pity – the long slippery slope toward tragic doom and gloom. or maybe its to see it – look it in the eye – say “hey day i see what you’re doing and screw you.”

its just a day. tomorrow will look different. the heartbreak will mend – no really it will. the doubts will subside, the sun will shine and yes, you will smile again.

in the mean time for me its finding the sexiest man I can to watch on a TV Series and giving in without guilt to the pleasure of hours of him. thank you Idris Elba for being my guiltless pleasure.

Today you are my sunshine x


Sometimes Mommies need to run for the hills or at least a spa day…

It’s true. Well for me at least its true. Motherhood can be pretty full on and by Monday morning after a full weekend of monitoring fever and easing the flaring furies of a two and something toddler I’m hardly ready to dive straight into a week of fully optimised productivity. I’m a lot keener on diving into a seat in an empty, pitch black cinema and watching an art movie, Or pouring myself into a plush lazy boy while my hands and feet are simultaneously buffed, scrubbed, polished, painted. And no one talks. In this fantasy no one speaks – like for hours. Just glorious silence.

Sadly running for the hills, the spa and other adventures remains a fantasy for now. Instead I’ve carved out a window of time for myself only. i am fiercely possessive of it and probably won’t have much competition for it since it begins at 4am and lasts till around 6am. Its madness, pure insanity, but its mine…

Not Quite Martha Stewart

In my more dreamy moments i imagine myself as a sort of Martha Stewart meets Gwyneth Paltrow. I imagine a home that is perfect – tidy, tastefully decorated, always with fresh flowers, gorgeous scents pervading the air and obviously masterchef culinary delights effortlessly pouring forth from the kitchen.. And some of the time I even come close to creating that. I love nothing better than entertaining – love to have guests over. love to plan the food, try exciting new recipes and create a wonderful environment. The bottom line is I like a good party, so last Sunday i invited some dear friends over for mid afternoon drinks, snacks and a bit of a catch up. I also invited newer friends who are set to become great friends I feel. Sunday morning was crunch time. its a newly bought home so there is a bald patch in the lawn that i’ve been meaning to get grass for, for 2 weeks. Naturally my little tot was duly bundled into the car at 09 O Clock Sunday morning so that we could go and procure some lawn. from there straight on to Yoga while the grass steamed the back window of the car in the muggy heat.

Feeling stretched and ready to conquer the madding supermarket crowds we made our way to the shopping centre. But someone wasn’t feeling it like i was. Someone was in a pretty bad mood and actually pretty darn tired. Someone who is usually an adorable strawberry ringlet curled little girl was very cross. And she wanted a chocolate biscuit.

and she’s two and three quarters and there is little room for discussion when its about a chocolate biscuit. Eager not to give into bribery and a rising crescendo of wailing shouting and face slapping (um thats my face she was slapping btw) and because the queue for checkout was about 3 miles long (well it felt like that anyway) i was forced to ditch the fully loaded trolley and retreat to the car and home.

Angel fast asleep…. time ticking. Right – get the lawn in. Picture it – racing around with wedges on trying to plant strips of lawn. I mean what was i thinking? Anyway its done…guests arriving in 2 hours. no food or drinks. no way i can wake Angel up and take her to the shops. Panicky situation for me. But real panic. Things will not be perfect, I will not be ready. And then I had an epiphany. So they’re all going to know I’m not perfect – but there is nothing I can do about it. It just is what it is.

Reaching for my lifeline i text my bestie and ask her to come a little early so i can run to the shop before anyone else gets here. And she offers to do the shopping for me. My heart melts, I marvel at how blessed I am to have a friend like that and I realise that once you are vulnerable – once you let down the facade of having it all under control 100% of the time the world comes in to help you. Needless to say we had the best afternoon. the shopping arrived after the new friends did which meant i actually had no drinks or snacks to offer them for half an hour and you know it was fine. Infact I kinda think it made the afternoon more special. the pressure was off – the guard was down, the laughter rang out and eventually the wine flowed.

Success all round.




“Execution of Goals” by: Reggie Batts

Reggie Batts: Mindset for Success Series

 Most people set goals for themselves once a year and the time of year is usually January 1st. Most people check in to see how they’re progressing with their goals a year later- and by then it is too late and the goal is long forgotten.  The word goal by definition is the result or achievement toward which effort is directed. A goal without action is meaningless, and it is also very important that you’re taking the right action necessary to reach the goal. The right action means doing the right things in the right order so that you get the result you’re seeking.

Where most people fail in setting goals in their business or personal life is the disbelief that the goal is achievable. Limiting beliefs which set us up to fail before the goals are even written down. Limiting beliefs are the toxic thoughts we tap into as…

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“Disciplines of Successful People” By: Reggie Batts

I recently saw Reggie speak at a JT Foxx 2 day seminar in Cape Town and was blown away by his energy, enthusiasm and joy for life. I’m officially a fan!

Reggie Batts: Mindset for Success Series

As we are now in quarter 4 of the year, now is the time to start making those goals for 2016. It is important to go into the new year with a plan that is crystal clear. Most of us focus on the “how” primarily and the motivation ceases because most of us do not know how to execute the plan in a strategic way that will get us to the result. Focusing on the “”why” certainly puts you ahead of the game. Your “why” is your fuel, your motivation, your inspiration, and often times your most powerful purpose for taking action. Your “why” may be that you want to prove everyone who has told you you’d never make it wrong. Your “why” may be that you want to leave a legacy or that you want to make your family proud and see to it that they have more than…

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